17 Things To Release And Finally Be Happy
Have you ever stopped to think about why people hold onto things that hold them back?
Do you ever find yourself hanging on to things you know should be released?
Is it possible that you’re holding on to things, even long forgotten, that impede your progress?
Holding on to things better released is like trying to go through life with the emergency brake on. That will only last so long before burn out happens.
You may find, like many people, that it’s not so easy to release some things. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept change.
You’re not alone. Many people hold onto:
- pet peeves
- petty annoyances.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Let Go and Let God.”
How much more peace could we all have if we release these things?
Now is the time to put our life in gear, and move forward.
17 Things To Release And Finally Be Happy
- ALL ANXIETY. Is it human nature to worry, to be overly concerned about things that ultimately matter little? I think not. Worry is a learned behavior, which means that it can be unlearned. The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:18 that “Perfect love casts out fear.” The choice to LOVE is a choice for life. The antidote to all anxiety is LOVE. Embrace every moment, every challenge as an opportunity to be better. In a previous post, I discussed 8 Ways To Win Out Over Worry. If you have not read it, I encourage you to take a moment and do so now.
- ALL ASSUMPTIONS. Many times we make assumptions that are harmful to our inner peace, to our relationships.
- ANGRY ATTITUDES. From time to time, we all get angry. I think anger has its place, but unless we learn to control it and release it properly, it can backfire on us. We can end up turning that anger inwards. If this is something you need to release, I encourage you to read Anger Management: 10 Ways To Tame Your Temper.
- COMPLETE CONTROL. It doesn’t make sense to try to control anything beyond our ability to do so, does it? Yet, many times, a lot of energy is spent trying to do exactly that. When we release our need to control everything, only managing what we can control, we experience the freedom to be ourselves. When you trust God for the rest, you can’t go wrong.
- DEFEATING DOUBTS. There is no need have a defeatist attitude, to be resigned to a pessimistic view of life. We often hear people exclaim, “I can’t,” or “I could never do that.” Release the voice that tells you that you can’t succeed, that you’ll never measure up. Have faith in your God-given abilities to BE all that you can be. Joyce Meyer says, “Choosing an attitude of faith will release peace out of your spirit and into your soul.” Here are 12 Ways To Improve Your Self-Confidence.
- EVERY EXCUSE. I have learned over the years, and I’ve stated before that EXCUSES = REGRETS. Honor yourself, honor your own personal worth and dignity, and make the decision to release every excuse you’ve used to not move forward. This is especially important if you tend to procrastinate. You may wish to read Excuses Begone! 22 Ways To Eliminate Excuses Entirely.
- FORMER FAILINGS. Does it mean that because you’ve failed before, that you will never succeed? No. Of course not! Turn problems into opportunities! Failure leads to success only when we learn from the past. To hold onto your failings is to lock yourself in an emotional prison. You deserve better than than AND truth be told, you’re the only one that can sign your own release papers.
- FUTURE FEAR. You may dread what is going to happen an hour from now, tomorrow, or next week. Only God knows our future. Even if you know that, you may still have butterflies in your stomach flapping up a storm. You may be breaking into a cold sweat. I say, “Embrace fear and it will release its hold on you.“
- GROUP GOSSIP. Release the need to talk about others behind their back, making comparisons about their failings and your strengths. Isn’t it better to look for the best and expect the best in others? Isn’t it better to be grateful for your own uniqueness?
- HARMFUL HABITS. Perhaps, like me, at some time or another, you adopted strategies or survival mechanisms that no longer serve a purpose. Bad habits can only be replaced by healthy habits. Wayne Dyer said, “You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life’.” In a previous post, I outline how to Get Rid Of Bad Habits Once And For All.
- OTHERS OPINIONS. Why do others opinions matter so much to us? Because we want to fit in. More than that – we all need to belong. Of course, family holds a lot of influence in our thinking and our behavior, but ask yourself this: What does God think of me? Don’t be afraid. The Bible tells us that God keeps the sparrows and you are worth more than many sparrows. (Matthew 10:29-31)
- PARALYZING PATTERNS. This is in conjunction with HARMFUL HABITS… getting stuck in a rut, repeating bad behavior, making the same mistakes without learning. Write yourself a permission slip to break free. Release yourself by affirming: “I am FREE to be all that I can be.“
- PAST PROBLEMS. Forward thinkers do not allow the past to interfere with living NOW. Release the past. Hang a “No Trespassing” sign on the door to your past. (Tweet this!)
- PEOPLE PLEASING. One of the problems with people pleasing is that you may measure up to a few people, but fall far short of everyone else. You can only live your life on your own terms, not by what others expect you to be. Otherwise known as approval addiction, people pleasing is a very unhealthy habit. Why? Because operating from a sense of lack or unworthiness keeps you from the reality that YOU ARE WORTHY! In her book, Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need To Please Everyone, Joyce Meyer reminds us of a very important fact: “Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, we will never lose our value in God’s eyes.“
- PERSONALIZING PROBLEMS. Those who continually play the role of victim tend to see everything as their fault. They often misconstrue statements as a finger of blame pointed at themselves. Don’t take things personally. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “People suffer because they are caught in their views. As soon as we release those views, we are free and we don’t suffer any more.“
- PERFECTIONIST PERSONA. Release the need to be seen as perfect. Why? 1) Because it has nothing to do with the real you. 2) Nobody is perfect. All we can do is our best. Isn’t that all you should expect of anyone?
- PESSIMISTIC PEOPLE. Negative people drain you of valuable energy. Cut yourself some slack. Release these people from your life. Surround yourself with upbeat, uplifting, encouraging people.
For the acronym buffs, I have created a BUTLERism for the word RELEASE…
RELEASE means to Relinquish Every Limiting Emotion And Spiritually Evolve
Release Your Inner Wisdom… Have Your Say!
What did you need to release? How did this benefit you?
Can you think of anything add to this list that will benefit others?
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