Release These 17 Things And Finally Be Happy

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17 Things To Release And Finally Be Happy

Have you ever stopped to think about why people hold onto things that hold them back?

Do you ever find yourself hanging on to things you know should be released?

Is it possible that you’re holding on to things, even long forgotten, that impede your progress?

Release what is holding you back.

Release what is holding you back.

Holding on to things better released is like trying to go through life with the emergency brake on. That will only last so long before burn out happens.

You may find, like many people, that it’s not so easy to release some things. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept change.
You’re not alone. Many people hold onto:

  • gripes
  • grudges
  • pet peeves
  • petty annoyances.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Let Go and Let God.

How much more peace could we all have if we release these things?

Now is the time to put our life in gear, and move forward.

17 Things To Release And Finally Be Happy

  1. ALL ANXIETY. Is it human nature to worry, to be overly concerned about things that ultimately matter little? I think not. Worry is a learned behavior, which means that it can be unlearned. The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:18 that “Perfect love casts out fear.” The choice to LOVE is a choice for life. The antidote to all anxiety is LOVE. Embrace every moment, every challenge as an opportunity to be better. In a previous post, I discussed 8 Ways To Win Out Over Worry.  If you have not read it, I encourage you to take a moment and do so now.
  2. ALL ASSUMPTIONS. Many times we make assumptions that are harmful to our inner peace, to our relationships.
  3. ANGRY ATTITUDES. From time to time, we all get angry. I think anger has its place, but unless we learn to control it and release it properly, it can backfire on us. We can end up turning that anger inwards. If this is something you need to release, I encourage you to read Anger Management: 10 Ways To Tame Your Temper.
  4. COMPLETE CONTROL. It doesn’t make sense to try to control anything beyond our ability to do so, does it? Yet, many times, a lot of energy is spent trying to do exactly that. When we release our need to control everything, only managing what we can control, we experience the freedom to be ourselves. When you trust God for the rest, you can’t go wrong.
  5. DEFEATING DOUBTS. There is no need have a defeatist attitude, to be resigned to a pessimistic view of life. We often hear people exclaim, “I can’t,” or “I could never do that.” Release the voice that tells you that you can’t succeed, that you’ll never measure up. Have faith in your God-given abilities to BE all that you can be. Joyce Meyer says, “Choosing an attitude of faith will release peace out of your spirit and into your soul.” Here are 12 Ways To Improve Your Self-Confidence.
  6. EVERY EXCUSE. I have learned over the years, and I’ve stated before that EXCUSES = REGRETS. Honor yourself, honor your own personal worth and dignity, and make the decision to release every excuse you’ve used to not move forward. This is especially important if you tend to procrastinate. You may wish to read Excuses Begone! 22 Ways To Eliminate Excuses Entirely.
  7. FORMER FAILINGS. Does it mean that because you’ve failed before, that you will never succeed? No. Of course not! Turn problems into opportunities! Failure leads to success only when we learn from the past. To hold onto your failings is to lock yourself in an emotional prison. You deserve better than than AND truth be told, you’re the only one that can sign your own release papers.
  8. FUTURE FEAR. You may dread what is going to happen an hour from now, tomorrow, or next week. Only God knows our future. Even if you know that, you may still have butterflies in your stomach flapping up a storm. You may be breaking into a cold sweat. I say, “Embrace fear and it will release its hold on you.
  9. GROUP GOSSIP. Release the need to talk about others behind their back, making comparisons about their failings and your strengths. Isn’t it better to look for the best and expect the best in others? Isn’t it better to be grateful for your own uniqueness?
  10. HARMFUL HABITS. Perhaps, like me, at some time or another, you adopted strategies or survival mechanisms that no longer serve a purpose. Bad habits can only be replaced by healthy habits. Wayne Dyer said, “You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life’.” In a previous post, I outline how to Get Rid Of Bad Habits Once And For All.
  11. OTHERS OPINIONS. Why do others opinions matter so much to us? Because we want to fit in. More than that – we all need to belong. Of course, family holds a lot of influence in our thinking and our behavior, but ask yourself this: What does God think of me? Don’t be afraid. The Bible tells us that God keeps the sparrows and you are worth more than many sparrows. (Matthew 10:29-31)
  12. PARALYZING PATTERNS. This is in conjunction with HARMFUL HABITS… getting stuck in a rut, repeating bad behavior, making the same mistakes without learning. Write yourself a permission slip to break free. Release yourself by affirming: “I am FREE to be all that I can be.
  13. PAST PROBLEMS. Forward thinkers do not allow the past to interfere with living NOW. Release the past. Hang a “No Trespassing” sign on the door to your past. (Tweet this!)
  14. PEOPLE PLEASING. One of the problems with people pleasing is that you may measure up to a few people, but fall far short of everyone else. You can only live your life on your own terms, not by what others expect you to be. Otherwise known as approval addiction, people pleasing is a very unhealthy habit. Why? Because operating from a sense of lack or unworthiness keeps you from the reality that YOU ARE WORTHY! In her book, Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need To Please Everyone, Joyce Meyer reminds us of a very important fact: “Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, we will never lose our value in God’s eyes.
  15. PERSONALIZING PROBLEMS. Those who continually play the role of victim tend to see everything as their fault. They often misconstrue statements as a finger of blame pointed at themselves. Don’t take things personally. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “People suffer because they are caught in their views. As soon as we release those views, we are free and we don’t suffer any more.
  16. PERFECTIONIST PERSONA. Release the need to be seen as perfect. Why? 1) Because it has nothing to do with the real you. 2) Nobody is perfect. All we can do is our best. Isn’t that all you should expect of anyone?
  17. PESSIMISTIC PEOPLE. Negative people drain you of valuable energy. Cut yourself some slack. Release these people from your life. Surround yourself with upbeat, uplifting, encouraging people.
Release these 17 things and finally be happy.

Release these 17 things and finally be happy.

For the acronym buffs, I have created a BUTLERism for the word RELEASE…

RELEASE means to Relinquish Every Limiting Emotion And Spiritually Evolve


Release Your Inner Wisdom… Have Your Say!

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William A. Butler is a John C.Maxwell certified coach. He loves to add value to others and aspiring to be a great humanitarian, lives by four words: BE LOVE TO OTHERS. William often goes by "Bill" and is a poet, a songwriter and has an upcoming novel.

56 thoughts on “Release These 17 Things And Finally Be Happy

  1. All good ones! My favorite things to release are number 14 and 17. People pleasing and negativity. I have kicked the negative Nellies to the curb. I just have no room or time. As far as people pleasing and needing others’ approval – I am too old to worry about what others think. And Let Go and Let God – is from AA. Everyone’s Higher Power is different and relinquishing control of others’ thoughts, feelings, actions, judgments is very freeing. Enjoyed your post.
    Laurie Hurley recently posted…Are You Tuned In To Your Strengths? (And How To Find Out What They Are)My Profile

    • Hi Laurie,
      I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Thank you for sharing what you resonate with the most. I especially appreciate that you are at that point in your life where you don’t concern yourself with what others think, or need their approval. That is a very healthy perspective. It’s also a nice place to be when one has nothing to prove to anyone else.

      All the best!

  2. Group gossips(back biting) and negative/depressing thoughts are the two things which harms a lot, according to me! So I keep myself away from these activities. All the points you mentioned here are correct! I am sharing this..A large number of people can be benefited from such posts!
    Tuhin recently posted…Learn how to deal with negative peopleMy Profile

    • Hi Tuhin,
      I included group gossip as one of the things to release because it is a very destructive habit and one that is ego based; in making unfair comparisons to others or disparaging comments behind their backs. It is insecurity masked as a false air of superiority over others. I appreciate you sharing this to benefit others. Thanks kindly! Have a great week!

  3. All great things to let go of..though I’d say that #8 and #14 have had the most benefits for me personally. I have found it amazing to stay in the present…thought sometimes it’s difficult.
    Jacqueline Gum (Jacquie) recently posted…Mature Skin… Where’s The Justice?My Profile

    • Hi Jacquie,
      I’m glad that you’re able to release future fears. We have no control over it anyway, and it helps us to stay in the moment and ON purpose.
      You’re right, it is sometimes difficult because we have such intense levels of curiosity about what is going to happen. Some people try to play out every possible scenario, but acceptance of things as they come, including the challenges, only makes us stronger. Thanks for contributing your thoughts. Have a wonderful week!

  4. Great post on releasing negatives Bill. I especially enjoyed your Butlerism. In business I always made sure there were a couple of pessimists around for balance but kept them as isolated as possible from the general population ! In life as a whole I avoid them and would say that #17 tops my list
    Paul Graham recently posted…Points Of ViewMy Profile

    • Hello Paul,
      I appreciate the feedback on the BUTLERism. I have created a few thousand of them now. For balance, I think that’s wise. I have someone in my circles who loves to play devil’s advocate and always provokes deeper thinking, which I enjoy. But like you, I spend very little time around the perpetually pessimistic and negative types. Thanks for adding to the conversation. I appreciate you! Have a great week!
      Kind Regards,

  5. Hi William – This is a terrific list and I fully agree with it – the one I struggle with the most is Complete Control. I want to be in charge, which I know is ridiculous because there are so many things we can’t control, but that doesn’t seem to stop me from trying. Guess I’ll have to keep trying harder.

    • Hi Lenie,
      Perhaps you learned or adapted behavior from others that informs you to try to be in control. When you take time to ask yourself where that need to be in control comes from, what you can do to be better, and what you should release, I’m sure you will gain clarity and more personal freedom.

      Many people strive and struggle, and put themselves under enormous amounts of pressure to DO. I think the secret is simply in BEing. This is what the topic of “spiritual intelligence” is about. You may wish to investigate it. Have a pleasant week!

  6. I try too much to be a people pleaser. That is something I need to work on.
    William Rusho recently posted…A Medieval Tank was called a KnightMy Profile

    • Welcome William,
      I’m glad you stopped in. Part of the need to be a people pleaser may stem from the industry you’ve been; in as pro wrestling is all about entertainment. But at a personal level, you’ve already recognized that it’s something you need to work on, which is always the best kind of learning. Evaluate all the wonderful possibilities that lie within you, examine your potential, and you’ll see the value of your own self worth. No amount of money can buy that! Have a great week!

  7. I agree totally with your list and the things that I am struggling with are defeating doubts and fear of future.
    As our belief should be strong on our Creator and we also believe that He have written our earnings , profits or wealth and we also believe that these come after man and we are not worried about our life after death but about our earnings.
    Fear of future is almost the same for me as I am not afraid of future but may be earnings and stuff.
    If we will forget about past then we can move towards future.

    I really liked your Butlerism for RELEASE. I will let go my fears and doubts … I will try
    andleeb recently posted…Our Problems… Do you have a solution?????My Profile

    • Hello Andleeb,
      We all know what’s it’s like to put on a brave face, especially when afraid. the spirit is trembling. We also know that all fear is imaginary; we simply need to release it. We are not given a spirit of fear or timidity, but one of love, and power and a sound mind. The antidote to fear is LOVE.
      I appreciate the feedback on my BUTLERism. Do have a great week!

  8. Hi Bill,

    Basically, get out of your own way and let yourself be happy 🙂 Isn’t that true?

    What an awesome list and easy to remember! And if I may add something, holding on to one thing helps release all these 17. And what one thing is, trust in God which I posted in my blog today!

    With God everything is possible. Leave your worries, your disappointments and all your fears for Him and let him worry about those things while you do what is the right thing to do this very moment. Doesn’t it make life so much easier?

    Thank you for sharing these nuggets of wisdom!

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    • Hi Kumar,
      You’re right! Many people allow their ego to get in the way. Putting that back in the shadows where it belongs returns one to their true self.

      I did include trusting God in my 4th point, and I agree with you entirely on this. It does make life easier. Nothing is ever accomplished in the spiritual realm by any amount of physical striving. I appreciate your input, as always. Enjoy your week!

  9. Hi Bill,

    This is an exhaustive list to ponder over and I have been doing the same for the last 10 minutes…thanks for reminding that the path to happiness crosses through our own heart and head. If we give up anxiety, half the battle is won! What I find hard to abdicate is- angry attitude and a bit of control. I have written why anger has been my companion…my next post is talking about that!

    I am so happy that I seem to have accomplished all other aspects that form the part of your list…no gloating…just a feeling of contentment! Loved your poetic style presentation! Have a nice day!
    Balroop Singh recently posted…Of Traditions, Conservatism and Giving…My Profile

    • Hi Balroop,
      Yes the list is really about some of the ways people think and how harmful those ways are to our own personal freedom and success.
      But as with all life lessons, wisdom tells us to release those things to move forward. I’ll look forward to reading your next article on anger.
      I think we are given anger for a reason. Sometimes its righteous indignation. What we do with anger is an entirely different matter.

      Glad that you were able to release the others on the list. Good for you! Thanks for the encouragement on my writing. Much appreciated!

  10. I try and avoid negative people in every facet of life. Negativity is an energy sap and who needs that. I agree with your list Bill and even though I cannot say I do none of the items listed, I do try. I guess that is the point.
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    • Hi Tim,
      I do too. I think negative people can be likened to a reverse magnet that pull everything good out of a person. Unfortunately, in this case, two (or more) negatives never make anything positive. As to the rest on the release list, all progress is a process. Do have a great week!

  11. Hi Bill

    These 17 things to release will make one happy. Whenever I get riled up about something, that is not in my control I just say to myself “Let go and let God.” Not just saying it, but really believing it.
    When I was having trouble with my adult daughter, I knew there was absolutely nothing I could do. She was into drugs at that time and I did the parent thing as best as possible, even went to learn how to do “tough love.”
    I remember he day so clearly, sitting in church and handing over my daughter to God. Here you go God, I have no control over this. All I can do is pray for her. It was pretty scary to do, but I got the courage up. I remember thinking “Will He take her away?” “Will she get sick?” But those were doubtful thoughts. I put my heart into it and bingo! I felt a sense of relief.
    Well that’s my story! I can live happier now.
    P.S. God did his work and she is fine now! Amen.
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    • Hi Donna,
      I agree with you that relinquishing control of things beyond our powers, beyond our capacity to manage them, is wisdom. It is the same when a family member is dying in the hospital. There isn’t anything we can do to control the state of their health or to make things better. Thanks for sharing your daughter’s story. All we can do is release our cares by trusting God for answers we yearn to understand. Glad to hear a positive outcome for her.
      Have an awesome week!

  12. Oh if we could just let ALL these things go, we’d be in a much better frame of mind. My nemesis’s are #3, #5, #8. When I get the point of bering angry, it take me a very long time to unwind that. Self doubt is a constant companion that I have regular conversation with… LOL. Future fears creep in form time to time and it need to be vigilant to put them to rest. That isn’t always so easy. 🙂
    Susan Cooper recently posted…Everyday Life Challenges: StoryMy Profile

    • Hi Susan,
      Thank you for sharing what you struggle with. As you can only focus on one thing at a time, redirection is always the key. A perspective you can take with regards to anger is to ask yourself how much this will matter in a year, 5 years, 10 years from now? Stepping outside of the moment, mentally, you can begins to see things more clearly… just as calming as imaging being in your most favorite place, like a tropical beach. Focusing on your strengths also helps silence your inner critic. I wish yo well in all your endeavors.

  13. Another great post that really hit home for me Bill!

    I had no idea that I had so many things that could potentially be released.

    It was a freeing experience when I finally released it all, and I am sure that I am going to have to revisit this post at sometime in the future.

    Blessings Bill,
    Sean Van Zant
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    • Hi Sean,
      I’m glad this post encourages you. There are many more things we could release, but perhaps that can be a future post.
      There’s only so much a person can digest in one sitting, especially when it’s serious food for thought. Thanks for adding to the conversation.
      Have a great week! Blessings to you too!

  14. That is a very good list that you have. The only thing that I would add to it is negativity. If someone could remove just 7 out of the 17 on your list they would be able to live a happier life.
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    • Thanks for the add there Jay. NIX NEGATIVITY. I’ve used that alliteration in previous posts, but yes, the entire list really is about releasing negatives.
      It’s a stepping stone, a great start to a better life.
      Kind Regards,

  15. This is a brilliant list Willian. I think getting rid/letting go of anger is incredibly important , a it does nothing but stress you out. Defeating doubts were another favorite of mine that you mention. Goodness knows why we torture ourselves with these negatives, but it’s a perfect person who doesn’t That said we can work daily to try and gradually let all of these things go. Than you for the reminder

    • Hello A.K.
      Yes these things can be emotional torture. Why do so many people hold onto what they need to let go of? That question is what keeps the professionals busy. Nobody is perfect. When we release the notion of even attempting to be perfect in the eyes of others, we do ourselves a great service. As I’m fond of saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day, but they had the gates up.” It all takes time. You’re very welcome. Thank YOU for contributing!
      Kind Regards,

  16. Learning how to release such things can be easier said than done, but with conscious effort it can happen. I have lots of baggage from growing up with a bipolar mother, but in the end, think I turned out fairly resilient.
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    • Hi Jeri,
      Having experienced child abuse in every form, I too needed to learn to release all that baggage. Of course it’s not easy to let go. We want justice. We demand answers. For many people, the wisdom that comes form life lessons doesn’t come so easily. For myself, I saw that I owed it to myself to be better.
      I’m glad you pulled through. I especially love your writing.

      Kind Regards,

  17. Very good reminder of things to let go of. I think I’m doing well, and then something comes up where it’s in front and center again. I had anger at a former boss for his hand in my discontinuation of appointment from my job. I thought I left that in the past so I can focus on myself and strive for a more positive future. It seems though, while I’m asleep, my dreams will resolve any residual feelings I may have or wasn’t able to express.
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    • Hi Christina,
      I have a friend who was an industrial engineer. He was so mad at his boss, he was seriously contemplating murdering him. Fortunately, he went for counseling and was able to release that anger in positive ways. Anger can be a tricky thing to manage, because as you say, you think you’ve dealt with it, and something else can arise that provokes a memory or triggers a negative response. We need to be able to control our actions and our reactions. I agree. I think rest does wonders us.
      All the best!

  18. Good and true list of what holds us back and stop us from truly succeed. On the other hand it’s essential to be aware of the worst that can happen in order to be prepared if things go wrong. Most truly successful people look at the nightmare scenario and if and when it happens they know what to do. That way they avoid panick.
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    • Hi Catarina,
      I agree with you. If we had no cognizance of potential dangers or risks, we would not be able to mitigate them. I think being as prepared as possible is wise. Most leaders utilize the ability of forecasting to create contingency plans. You’re right. It creates calm and order, rather than chaos and panic.
      Have a great week!

  19. Very good list! I agree with all the points you touched, especially the anxiety, the perfectionism and the group gossip.. I think you can’t trust on people who usually do group gossip.. the time you are not in the group.. it’ll be for sure your turn! 🙂

    • Greetings Ilaria!
      Welcome! I’m glad you like this list of things to release. I saw it many times in various work environs. It is human nature to talk, but it is the worst of human nature to talk down on others and behind their backs. I make it a principle to always look for and expect the best in others.

      Kind Regards,

  20. Hey Bill,

    What a great list and although I’m by no means perfect there is nothing on that list that I still need to let go of. I’m a very happy person and I live my life in the present moment. I don’t dwell on things and I don’t let things bother me. I have my moments like anyone else and it’s taken me years to get to this place but I believe that’s also why I’m healthy too. I’m in such a good place and I love my life so if you’re not there yet, pay attention to what Bill is sharing because trust me, none of it is really worth hanging onto.

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    • Hey Adrienne,
      I’m glad that you’re in that happy place in your life. I, too, focus my energy and attention on the here and now and am also fortunate, after many years, to have released these things. Yes, we all have our moments. Life is just like that. But, as you’ve encouraged others here, none of it is worth holding onto. I think that’s unnecessary emotional upset. Thanks very much for your input. I appreciate you!


  21. Hi Bill,

    Great, great reminders here. If people stopped doing even half of your list here they’ll be so much happier. You know, I’m going to tell you a secret, I used to carry around many on that list myself. I was mess, but I’m much, much better now, thank God 🙂

    I guess, at times life can make you bitter and then you become someone you don’t even like. It did happened to me. But we should live in a way that allows us to look at ourselves in the mirror and say, I’m doing OK.
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    • Hi Sylviane,
      Considering the upbringing many people have had, it is no wonder so many still struggle with these issues. One way to release them is to adopt the attitude that asks, “Why be bitter when you can be better?” That’s certainly one of the questions that has helped me. I’m glad that you’ve gained personal freedom.

      Kind Regards,

  22. Bill, I don’t even know where to start, this was such a great post. You could write a whole book about this subject with each number a different chapter! Or a self-directed study program. I think you were talking about me on #5 and #6. And nice job on the alliteration. 🙂
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    • Hi Meredith,
      Thank you for those kind words of encouragement and your input. I had not considered turning this into a book, so thank you for the suggestion.
      I think the greatest learning we do is when we recognize for ourselves where we need to change. By attaching a great degree of importance on those changes, we are then motivated to take action. As to the alliteration, I have written a number of posts in this style as part of my creativity.
      Have a beautiful week!

  23. Bill, great post! #2 always gets us into trouble, we often assume what others are thinking or doing. #17 is huge for me, I try to pull myself away from negative people but it can be hard when you either work with them or have them in your family. They can really drain you when you must spend time with them. I have to either play music right before and after to not feel the negative effects.
    I also need to work on #7 Bill, thanks for the wonderful suggestions.
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    • Hi Lisa,
      As I was writing this, I reflected back on a friend who told me that the some of the most helpful words I had encouraged him with are:
      CHALLENGE YOUR OWN ASSUMPTIONS. When we drill down to where many of our ideas have come from, we gain the insight that we have, in many cases, simply accepted without challenge what we’ve been told. Unless we release these assumptions, they become our delusions.

      My strategy for dealing with negative people is fairly simple. I keep my conversation short and polite and move on. But, if I am in close quarters, I filter their speech through my “grain of salt” department. If we allow others to disturb our peace, we are handing over our power to them.
      I refuse to do that, especially with negative people. Every day, we all have things we need to address to be better. So you’re not alone.

      I appreciate your input. Thanks!

  24. Bill,
    Your post comes at the right time in my life. Recently, I find that my behavior has been influenced negatively by the opinions and behavior of a few folks surrounding me at the moment. Things must change in order for me to act and feel as I would like. Your reminders really are going to help me start making changes.
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    • Hi Edward,
      Nice to hear from you again. I’m glad this post is timely for you. Be assured – you are not alone. It’s hard to release negativity when it seems to be everywhere you go. You’ve done the greater part of the work in recognizing that you need to make changes, which can only happen from the inside out.
      Remember to be patient with yourself, and protect the sanctity of your true self.

      Kind Regards,

  25. Ouch. I’m guilty of many of the bad things on your list although I think I’m improving (mellowing, perhaps) with age and life experience. One thing I did learn early on was to move on past anger. Being angry at someone lets them take up residence in your head. Indifference is a much more punishing to people who want to or try to or inadvertently make one angry.
    Suzanne Fluhr recently posted…“If You Want to Make God Laugh, Tell Him about Your Plans” — Carpe Diem EditionMy Profile

    • Hi Suzanne,
      Welcome back! I would like to ask that you do not allow your guilt to erode your self-esteem or your healthy
      self love. Guilt can be entirely consuming, draining us of valuable energy that we need for greater things.

      You may have seen my two-line poem earlier. If not, I’ll include it here for you:

      “Life is too short to live in a hurry.
      Life is too long for heartache and worry.”

      There are many other things I could have added to the list, such as guilt. And like excuses, guilt also carries regret and remorse with it.

      Thank you so much for sharing and adding value to the conversation. I love hearing your perspective.

      Kind Regards,

  26. Hi Bill, Wow, what a powerful article. I actually read this several days ago but I’m humbled in writing a comment that’s worthy of this article.

    When you first meet someone you can generally tell if they are hanging on to the baggage of the past. Those who are at peace with themselves have released their issues.

    This is an article that should be read by everyone. Make sure that you’re living life to the fullest by following the steps you’ve outlined here. Your Butlerism at the end is just perfect!

    I’m going to share this widely so many people can be inspired by your words of wisdom here, Bill!
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    • Hi Carolyn,
      I’m glad you enjoyed this post and my BUTLERism 🙂 I agree with you about the generalization because there are some people who repress their debris and keep piling up and bottling up things on the inside. A certain combination of events will trigger an avalanche of emotions. Like a volcano erupting, they finally release their pent up emotions and tears.

      A lot of people are too busy to enjoy their lives. Their days are filled with everything but time for the things that really matter.
      Thank you very much for your encouraging words and for sharing this.

      Kind Regards,

  27. Bill, when a person has a resentment it is usually the person who suffers because they are living rent free in your head. Life is to short and I try and go with the flow. I have found humor has saved my butt a million times. Sometimes I will just laugh because I am so stressed out about something that I just will laugh at how ridiculous I am feeling. I will also watch comedians and that always helps me. It gets you out of the funk and to not take life so seriously. Great post! =)

    • Hi Crystal,
      I agree with you, resentment is a terrible burden to carry around. If others could look inside, they would see an emotional wound festering whose scab keeps festering until the venom is released and they finally heal. And yes, laughter is still the best medicine. 🙂 The therapeutic value cannot be overstated.
      A really great book that discusses our beliefs and what they do on the inside of us is entitled The Biology of Belief by Dr. Bruce Lipton. It’s fascinating!

      I like how you redirect the focus of your attention and energy. It’s a very healthy attitude. 🙂 Thanks for adding value with your comments.

      Kind Regards,

  28. Bill,

    Great Post. I agree with you. #17 is my favorite. Pessimistic people won’t take you anywhere. It’s very true. They restrict your mind, they make your possibilities suspicious, and they can make your plans rusted. I don’t reply to them most of the times, but I do when my limit ends…

    And secondly, your reply to such people is a must-give thing, to let them know how motivated and passionate you are on what you are doing.
    Hassaan recently posted…7 Reasons that Make you Alone on PlanetMy Profile

    • Welcome Hassan!
      I agree with you… pessimistic people are a real drain on your energy… certainly the kind of people you want to keep out of your inner circle.
      But they only influence you to the degree you allow them to… which means put the brakes on your interaction with them.
      I think if you are motivated and passionate that others will observe that… even a pessimistic person… without having to say so.

      Kind Regards,

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